3 Things I learned While Traveling 1,803 Miles Across The Country
In December of 2017 I packed my bags, filled a moving van with my furniture, and took off with my Dad and my cat, Autumn.
I was moving from my home in Queens, New York to the mile high city of Denver, Colorado and the trip was exactly 1,803 miles.
I’m sure you’re wondering, “Why? What’s the motivation for moving across the country?” I’ll get to that later, but first let’s talk about the lessons I learned and how they can impact YOUR life right now.
If you’re more of a cliff-notes kind of person, here are the lessons I learned:
- Strive for harmony over balance.
- Even in the most mundane activities, you have an opportunity to grow.
- No matter who you are, your dream requires support.
Pretty straight forward, right? Let’s dive into each.
Harmony Over Balance.
I am blessed to say that my Dad offered to help me move.
As we traveled for 4 full days, we probably spent about 22 hours in the crowded van, which is no easy task even if you love driving (which both my Dad and I do).
On top of that Autumn was confused, tense and crying for dear life.
When my Dad was driving I’d have her on my lap in her pet carrier, but even my pets wouldn’t calm her down fully. We couldn’t let her out either because there were places she could crawl through to the back where all of my stuff resided.
Needless to say, sitting for hours at a time with an alarmed cat in your lap is far from ideal.
After the first day or two of driving, I realized that I was completely out of balance!
I wasn’t eating healthy because we were getting fast food for most meals; I wasn’t exercising because I was exhausted after a full day of being on the road; and I wasn’t doing anything for my business because I was either driving or comforting Autumn.
At first, I felt awful. But then, I had an epiphany…
I was living in complete harmony with what I wanted to be doing.
Yes, my life was out of balance, but what the hell can you expect from driving across the country with your entire life in the trunk? It was one of those moments where I thought, “DUHHH, of course it’s going to be like this!”
At that moment, I decided to enjoy life to the fullest, in whatever way I could during this time. I let go of the need to be in balance in all areas of life and this is what freed me.
I turned my attention to how awesome it was to have my Dad right by my side as we took this epic journey; I noticed how wonderful it was to have the ability to move across the country with all of my things safely packed; and I began to drink in the wonderful views we were passing by.
Just by shifting my perception, I was able to welcome in all of the many blessings that were right in front of me.
That brings me to my first question for YOU. What’s out of balance in your life that you can’t do anything about right now and how can you acknowledge that you're living in harmony?
When you accept a situation for what it is and discover how you can enjoy your life anyway, you liberate yourself from SO many negative thoughts that would destroy your chances for happiness and fulfillment in the present moment.
This leads us to the second lesson I learned on this road trip.
The Ever-Present Opportunity To Grow
During the many hours my Dad and I spent in that moving van, I had countless opportunities to grow.
Did I recognize these opportunities at first? NOPE.
Like I said before, I was pretty preoccupied by all of the negatives of driving across the country in a van where you can barely move.
It wasn’t until I made the shift in awareness of being in harmony over being in balance that I was able to see the growth filled moments I had available to me.
It was on the third day when I was driving in the flat lands of middle America when I woke up from a trance. I felt as if I was hypnotized by the straight road, the light music from the radio playing, and the occasional rustle of my Dad or Autumn adjusting how they were sleeping.
Waking up from that road trance was the moment I knew that there had to be some way to use this time wisely.
What I’ve learned over the last 6 year of studying personal transformation and human potential is that when you ask a specific question in your mind, you’ll receive a specific answer (much like doing a google search, only with the Infinite).
So, I asked, “What can I do while I’m driving to grow and expand my awareness?”
Almost immediately ideas started flying in.
- Talk with Dad and ask him to tell you stories from his past on how to be a better man.
- Recall your dream and imagine it’s all worked out so you can practice feeling how it will feel to achieve what you want.
- Practice forgiveness by reminding yourself of someone who has hurt you and wish them well.
- Make a mental list of all of your successes to generate a state of positivity about your ability to achieve great things in your future endeavors.
I’m sure there were more, but those are the ideas I remember. I took action on all of them and it was life-changing.
I am so grateful for having asked that question because I not only turned the mundane activity of driving into time for personal growth, but I also grew closer with my Dad.
Here’s my second question for you. What mundane tasks do you take for granted in your life and how can you infuse the possibility of growth in that time?
Your ideas might surprise you.
Now, on to the third and final lesson.
Your Dream Requires Support
If you believe you can achieve your lofty goals on your own, you’re kidding yourself.
I don’t mean to be harsh, but this is the truth.
The quicker you learn it, the better off you’ll be.
Show me any person you consider a success and I’ll show you their support team. That can come as their coach, their mentor, their parents, their brother, their friends, their teacher, and heck even their dog!
As human beings, we are hard-wired to be in community and help each other. You could say it’s in our DNA or our genes.
The reason we have such amazing technology and such an advanced civilization is because we supported each other.
NOTHING of great consequence ever comes as a result of one single person. One person may take the credit or be in the spotlight, but I guarantee they have a team that helped them achieve their greatness.
Why this matters to you is to check in and see if you’re allowing yourself to be supported or not? Your life depends on your answer.
At the very least, the life of your dreams depends on whether you humble yourself to ask for help.
This truth hit me like a ton of bricks when I finally arrived in Denver and moved into my new apartment. One man in particular helped me more than I could ever repay him for: my Dad.
Without my Dad, I would probably still be living in New York. He’s the one who got us a killer deal with the moving van because “he knew a guy.” He’s the one who took off 5 days of work to help me drive to my new home. He’s the one who helped comfort Autumn as I was driving and he’s the one who helped me move all of my heavy furniture in.
Once I really thought about all of the amazing help my Dad gave me during this time, my mind just kept on going and there are a thousand more things I know my Dad has helped me with throughout my life.
I can honestly say that if it weren’t for my Dad, I wouldn’t be living my dream right now. THANK YOU, DAD. I LOVE YOU.
Funny enough, one of the reasons I moved to Denver was because I had always dreamed of snowboarding in the Colorado mountains. That dream was instilled in me by my Dad when I was very young and just learning how to glide down a mountain.
I’m proud to say that we both lived out our dream that December and it was even more thrilling than I had ever imagined.
Hey, it’s that time. Your third and final question. What support do you need to build your dream and progress further in your life?
Having the willingness to accept support from others is a sign of strength and understanding, not weakness. Ask for help today.
What's Next For You?
This is the longest blog post I’ve ever written, so if you’ve made it this far congrats!
I hope you’ve found value out of what I learned. If you did, it would mean a lot to me if you’d drop a comment below with your thoughts. Thanks in advance.
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